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Boundaries for highly sensitive people
Dr. Elaine Aron's research suggests that setting boundaries can be challenging for highly sensitive people. I realize that our compassion levels can push us into situations that are unnecessary and unhealthy for us.
Boundaries can help us decrease or avoid extra stimulation. According to research, setting healthy and non-extreme boundaries takes practice. Hence, it is important not be upset when one isn't able to set a boundary, either.
[Aron, Elaine N. The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Survive and Thrive When the World Overwhelms You (pp. 61-62)]
A personal story about setting imperfect boundaries
Yesterday, I went to a book discussion and met several people who, unlike me, didn't identify as highly sensitive. I was able to have a healthy conversation with most of them. However, two women seemed rather cold. One behaved well through the event but stopped speaking to me suddenly after the event. The other lady was unaware of her impoliteness towards me.
It was a situation wherein the boundaries were blurred, and I didn't have an opportunity to call out both and set a clear boundary.
I decided to be imperfect with the situation and set a boundary with myself. I decided to not indulge in any more conversations with them in the future.
That, my dear highly sensitive soul, was my imperfect boundary.
Abstract art can teach us about boundaries.
The abstract artwork in this post represents different types of boundaries one can set with others and themselves too.
We can have clear boundaries with thin lines or outspoken boundaries that are tough to miss—such as the thicker and slanting broad lines in the artwork. We can have sharp triangular boundaries like the one at the top right bottom corner of the artwork. Additionally, we can have a healthy, circular boundary which allows room for smoother boundaries. Here, smoother boundaries mean setting boundaries that allow one to continue being inside circles of relationships even after setting a boundary.
Exploring one's unique highly sensitive self and boundaries with abstract art
In my experience, abstract art supports us in expressing our true personality and emotions. For example, I have been utilizing neon colors to express my new-age thoughts that are difficult for the larger society to accept. Painting with neon colors gives me a sense of belonging. It makes me realize that I am allowed to have my opinions.
Highly sensitive people can support their unique selves with a simple exercise.
I suggest sensitive souls go to an art store and pick up art material (paints, brushes, or canvas) that makes them feel like their authentic selves. It could be as simple as picking up a golden paint bottle.
It must be something that highlights you.
Maybe the gold represents your goals, dreams, personality type, or emotions. Whatever it may be, I suggest using it to paint.
The act of expressing oneself in this way becomes a stepping stone to understand one's needs. Also, clearly identified needs can help in setting clear boundaries.
So, dear highly sensitive soul, what are you waiting for?
Wouldn't you want to learn about your unique self and boundaries for it?
-3, 2, 1, Cheers,
Pranita
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